{"id":77,"date":"2019-10-24T19:32:11","date_gmt":"2019-10-25T01:32:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/?p=77"},"modified":"2020-11-27T18:40:07","modified_gmt":"2020-11-28T00:40:07","slug":"how-to-know-you-have-a-friend-when-they-die","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/2019\/10\/24\/how-to-know-you-have-a-friend-when-they-die\/","title":{"rendered":"How I realized I had a friend. When she died."},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>This week has been especially hard. Since the year 1994, I have known this lady. Starting off not as a friend but a part of my job that I needed in order to complete the request of the customer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You see, I am a surveyor and she is the Register of the deeds. It is an elected position in my county of my State. I started surveying in 1994, she won the election in 1996. She kinda worked in the office off and on for a few years until she won. So, since 1994 I knew this great lady and over time she became a friend I never knew I had.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She was never ever rude. She was always helpful. What she didn&#8217;t know, she learned by the next day. She was always <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">happy<\/span>. She was always knowledgeable. She <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">never had a bad day<\/span>. Even in treatment she never let it show. She always had a story that involved this guy named Marty. She loved butterflies. She loved her butterfly garden and working in it. Because of that, she knew that if she had a question about her butterfly garden or flowers in general, she asked me. She also knew how much I loved and knew about Lawrence County history that when she learned of something new, she educated me. A very rare and special relationship indeed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I had started back smoking cigarettes. During her treatments and everyday I saw her since I made a effort to hug her before I left. One day she told me, &#8220;If you don&#8217;t quit, you will end up like me.&#8221; That one thing she said to me stuck with me every day until. I factored it into my decision to quit. I have now have been nicotine free for 2 weeks now. The plan is forever. So, I am on my way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, in so many words, this lady has been an inspiration in my life. The way she lived her life up until the end really makes you rethink everything you thought was impossible. Smiling through the pain and never giving up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>She fought so hard with a smile on her face, she was a superhero.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Lawrence County lost someone special. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p> For 25 years, I asked her questions. And for 25 years, she asked me questions. I have cried so many tears these past few days. She would be really mad if she knew. I will miss you and your laugh Mrs. Teresa Peters Dunkin 6\/30\/58 &#8211; 10\/20\/19  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I will end with a quote from her obituary:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\n\n\u201cHow does one become a butterfly? \u2018Pooh asked pensively. \u2018You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar, \u2018Piglet replied. \u2018You mean to die?\u2019 asked Pooh. \u2018Yes and no,\u2019 he answered. \u2018What looks like you will die, but what\u2019s really you will live on.\u201d -A.A. Milne\n\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Thank you Mrs. Teresa (T) for being such a professional these so many years. You were one in a million.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.nealfuneralhome.net\/notices\/TeresaPeters-Dunkin\">https:\/\/www.nealfuneralhome.net\/notices\/TeresaPeters-Dunkin<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<center><figure class=\"wp-block-embed-youtube wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<div class=\"jetpack-video-wrapper\"><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/SlPhMPnQ58k?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div><\/figure><\/center>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-gallery columns-3 is-cropped wp-block-gallery-1 is-layout-flex wp-block-gallery-is-layout-flex\"><ul class=\"blocks-gallery-grid\"><li class=\"blocks-gallery-item\"><figure><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/teresa.jpg?ssl=1\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/teresa.jpg?resize=640%2C800&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"92\" data-link=\"https:\/\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/2019\/10\/24\/how-to-know-you-have-a-friend-when-they-die\/teresa\/\" class=\"wp-image-92\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/teresa.jpg?w=768&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/teresa.jpg?resize=240%2C300&amp;ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/teresa.jpg?resize=300%2C375&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a><\/figure><\/li><li class=\"blocks-gallery-item\"><figure><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sep2008-1024x768.jpg?ssl=1\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"480\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sep2008.jpg?resize=640%2C480&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"93\" data-link=\"https:\/\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/2019\/10\/24\/how-to-know-you-have-a-friend-when-they-die\/sep2008\/\" class=\"wp-image-93\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sep2008.jpg?resize=1024%2C768&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sep2008.jpg?resize=300%2C225&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sep2008.jpg?resize=768%2C576&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sep2008.jpg?w=1280&amp;ssl=1 1280w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sep2008.jpg?w=1920&amp;ssl=1 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"blocks-gallery-item__caption\">2008<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/li><li class=\"blocks-gallery-item\"><figure><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/20180924_103103-1024x768.jpg?ssl=1\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"640\" height=\"480\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/20180924_103103.jpg?resize=640%2C480&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" data-id=\"96\" data-link=\"https:\/\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/2019\/10\/24\/how-to-know-you-have-a-friend-when-they-die\/20180924_103103\/\" class=\"wp-image-96\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/20180924_103103.jpg?resize=1024%2C768&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/20180924_103103.jpg?resize=300%2C225&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/20180924_103103.jpg?resize=768%2C576&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/20180924_103103.jpg?w=1280&amp;ssl=1 1280w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.idavey.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/20180924_103103.jpg?w=1920&amp;ssl=1 1920w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/><\/a><figcaption class=\"blocks-gallery-item__caption\">2018<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/li><\/ul><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This week has been especially hard. 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